The Meaning of Happiness

Or, if you're Hollywood, the meaning of Happyness. However you spell it (or misspell it) it remains an elusive beast for some, much like wealth, true love and the Loch Ness Monster.

But truly, what does it mean? Does it only mean that you're just not desperately sad? Or is it something more? And who is responsible for YOUR happiness?

All burning questions to ponder as my laptop is hung up on a recompress.....

So then, gentle reader, who's to blame when you're not happy? Well, other than faulty internal chemistry, I belive that it's ultimately your own personal responsibility to yourself. You should not rely on others to make you happy, just as you should not place that burden on others. When someone says to me: "I don't know what makes me happy. You've known me a long time, don't YOU know what makes me happy?", my blood pressure goes up. So, after many years, much hard work and sacrifice on my part to help you be happy, you can still ask me this? Maybe it's time you figured it out for yourself and stop expecting it to be my only goal in life to drop the ultimate happiness bomb on you. We strive to please so many people: our bosses, our clients, our colleagues, our families. When you spend all your energy trying to making sure everyone else is happy, what's left for you? Especially when some of these people are just never satisfied? How much do you take before you blow a major gasket or simply give up entirely?

Oddly, as I realized this morning on the way to work, not much is left. It suddenly occured to me that I'm not happy. The irony was not lost on me. Normally, I love irony, but mostly if I'm not directly involved in the ironic event.

And so, reader, when we take all this into account, what are the next steps? A great big FU to the succubi that surround us sounds good. Let's try that, one person at a time and see how it goes. One small change can make a big difference. Let's hope.